如何专注于真正重要的事

生活中经常会经历这样的时期：让人换不过气的压力、好像所有事都从天而降，而我的目标是–完成所有的事情！还有另一个极端，我的生活完全被淹没在不同的项目和不同的职责中，我感到承受不住不仅是因为是它们在挑战我的极限，而更多的是它们根本毫无意义。有时我问自己，何时才到个头？我怎样才能结束这些既不能让我感受到自我的存在，又不能感受到前方道路的糟糕状态？
一些事务对我们是重要的，有些事比较重要 - 有些根本就是毫无意义。以下我想讨论如何界定并专注于真正的有意义的事情 - 然后讨论时间分配

分解
下面有几个问题来帮助你分辨真正重要的东西

1.想象一下你十年之后的生活？ 我喜欢规划未来并想象未来的生活：我想得到时间旅行的照片。这个问题可能在当你思考你的过去时更直白，想象你最喜欢的回忆，过去的人和事，你会发现所有的过去的经历都在塑造你的今天。同样的，想象10年后你想成为的人，然后想象什么今天做什么事能塑造你的明天。如果我的白日梦是——与家人温馨的细水长流，与朋友惬意的举杯狂欢，那将是告诉我在今天我需要专注于经验这些关系。

2.我的人生目标是什么？Leo提供了一些如何找到你的生活使命的建议，如果你确定了你的生活使命，那就是你需要花时间的地方 - 包括活动，至始至终必须是你的关心的焦点。也许我们觉得生活使命本身，并不等同于一个“现实的职业生涯”的 - 但我不同意。用“实际的职业生涯”做借口而逃避冒险是没有用的，这样的借口也不能送你的孩子上大学。这样的脱节发生在，当你的“现实的职业生涯”是你认为你的银行帐户上的钱太少，所以你想脱离它去过真正想过的生活。

3.什么让我觉得兴奋？有时，我们不敢承认自己真正想要做什么，我们真正想成为怎样的人，因为答案可能很小众，或者这种理想相比于目前的工作显得不稳定。然而在内心深处，我们知道什么才能让我们兴奋，什么让我们的心跳不已，什么让我们在早晨从床上激动得一跃而起。

4. 什么我们可以放在一边？一天总不能把所有的事情都做完，但是，一天的时间足够的做你真的感兴趣的事情，而这些事情才是最重要的的。你可以找到那些可放在一边的事情，然后呢？就让它搁一边吧。

5. 每个任务的结果和影响都是有意义的吗？或许很多结果甚至任务本身都是无意义的。真正重要的事是那些有深远影响的。有时候我为了最后的奖励而斗争、隐忍或折磨，或者为了最后响亮的鼓掌。然而，如果这些对我们并无意义，我们将不会对成就而满足。另外的情况是，我们可能有最初的梦想，但是后来兴趣与目标改变了。如果事情对你毫无意义，那么请无视这些事情对别人有多重要，无视它们对过去的你有多重要，让它随风而逝吧。

时间管理
如果你发现了生活中真正有意义的事 - 但发现无法专注于它，无法为它留出时间。这里有一些建议：

第一时间做。Leo建议选出你认为最重要的3件事（MITs），然后在一天开始时首先完成它们。你可以将真正对你有意义的任务放在那些次要任务前完成。早上的效率是一天之中最高的，所以每天我都坚持把与人生目标有关的工作放在早上做，在我做其他任何事情之前。这样的话，每天都从积极地态度开始，而连接未来。

写入日程表。我和我的家人都很忙，但我父母和我都想留点时间在一起。所以我将这项事项写入了我的Google日程表里，我把它当做与工作上的大人物约会一样的重要，这是我对未来的承诺。

作为一个紧急情况。我的生活总是被工作预定又预定——任务和各种承诺 - 但是当我必须进行阑尾炎手术，那么今天的日程表中任务将没项目可打勾了。我的日程计划因此而停下来，由于我的医疗急救。如果你无法放下手上的事，或无法腾出时间，不妨考虑把你的人生任务作为一个紧急情况。明确它的重要性，把不必要的项目在你的日程表中打叉——然后去掉。每一天，如果你仍旧把时间花在那些对你无意义的事情上，那么你永远无法康复 - 这对我来说，是要命的。

那些真正有意义的，才是重要的
我们都知道在内心深处有各种事情驱使着我们 —— 梦想让我们有激情，那种让我们想花更多时间去探索的激情。我认为应该，确定、专注并花时间给那些对我们有意义的事情，这不应只是个思想工作。

专注于有意义的事情，才是真正重要的。

How To Focus On What Truly Matters

In my life I’ve gone through periods of intense, driven productivity – months where everything fell into place, and my goals almost seemed to accomplish themselves. At the other extreme, there have been times in my life where I was completely overwhelmed, burdened by my different projects and responsibilities – and frustrated because so many of them not only challenged me, but didn’t matter to me. There were days when I asked myself how did I end up here? How did I end up working on all these things that aren’t who I am, and that don’t represent where I am going?

Some of our projects are extremely important to us, some matter a little – and some simply don’t matter to us at all. In this guide I’d like to discuss how to define and focus on what truly matters – and then discuss some strategies for making time for them.

Breaking It Down

Here are a few question to help you focus on what truly matters – and cut from your life items that don’t.
What does my life look like ten years from now? I love projecting into the future and imagining my life: mentally time traveling to picture where I want to be. The power of this exercise is even more apparent when you consider that you are the product of where you came from. Think of your favorite memories, people and events from your past and you’ll see things that have shaped you into the person you are today. Similarly, looking ten years down the road and imagining what I want helps me focus my energies today to make it happen tomorrow. If my future daydream is filled with thoughts of spending time with my family and celebrating with friends – then that tells me I need to focus on maintaining those relationships today.
What is my purpose? Leo has previously discussed his life’s purpose and tips for finding your own life’s mission. If you have determined your life’s mission, that provides a foundation for where you should be spending your time – along with the activities, and ends, you should be focusing on. This is sometimes difficult because we may believe our life’s purpose is not in line with a “practical career” – but I disagree. There is no contradiction in using a “practical career” to pull yourself out of debt so you can be free for adventure, or perhaps to send your children to college. The disconnect occurs however, when your “practical career” is padding your bank account with money which means little to you – and you wish you were out living your true purpose instead.
What excites me? Sometimes we are scared to admit to ourselves what we really want to do, and who we really want to be because it’s not popular, or because it’s not as secure as the job we have. Deep down however, we know what excites us. We know what gets our heart pumping, and what gets us excited to jump out of bed in the morning.
What can I let slide? There are never enough hours in the day to do everything, absolutely everything, that I have some interest in doing. There is, however, enough time in the day to do everything that I am truly interested in, and that truly matters. Find what you can let slide -and then let it.
Do the consequences have meaning Every task and project has outcomes and consequences – but consequences don’t matter in and of themselves. What matters is how much those consequences mean to us. Sometimes we fight, claw and struggle towards down a path because other people want us to have the rewards at the end, or because the ends sound impressive – but if they don’t have meaning to us, then we will not be satisfied with the accomplishment. In other cases we may have initially pursued a goal, but our interests and purpose changed. If something doesn’t mean anything to you, then regardless of how important it is to others, how impressive it may be or how important it may have been in the past, it may be time to let it go.
Making Time
You may already know what truly matters in your life – but are finding it difficult to make time for it, and to focus on it. Here are some tips to help you make time for what truly matters:

Do it first. In Zen To Done Leo suggests picking your 3 Most Important Tasks (MITs) and doing them first thing in the morning. Similarly, once you find what truly matters, try to take care of it first before spending time on tasks that matter less to you. Some people have experienced significant increases in productivity when writing, working out, or meditating early in the morning. I personally believe in paying myself first with my time, and live it every day. I work on my personal goals first thing in the morning, before I do anything else. This way every day begins positively and in line with my future.
Schedule it in. I’m very busy, and so is m family. My parents and I want to make time for each other however, so I literally schedule dinner in on my Google Calendar. I treat that appointment with the same seriousness as anything else in my life. It’s a commitment to my future and what truly matters.
Treat it as an emergency. My life is booked back to back with work, appointments and various commitments – but when I had to go into surgery for appendicitis, none of the little boxes in my task list got checked off that day. Instead, my routine came to a halt as I dealt with my medical emergency. If you’re having trouble letting things slide, or aren’t sure where you can make time, then consider treating your life mission as an emergency. Clear important, but unnecessary items off your schedule for a day – and let them go. Every day that you spend on tasks that don’t matter is a day you can never recover – and that, to me, is an emergency.
What Truly Matters, Matters
We all know deep down there are different things that drive us – hobbies that excite us, passions that we wish we had more time to explore, people we wish could spend more time with. I believe that identifying, focusing on, and spending time on what matters to us, is not simply a thought exercise.

Focusing on what truly matters, truly matters.

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