[双语阅读]生孩子影响婚姻质量?
2009-04-13 21:44
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Don't let the children hear, but parenthood can ruin marital bliss
It may not come as a surprise to parents, but having children really does impinge on marital bliss. Nine in ten couples suffer a downturn in 'marital satisfaction' once the first child is born, according to an eight-year study. And relationship and stress problems are worse for those who live together before getting married and starting a family. The findings will ring true for millions of parents who found everything from their finances to their sex lives suddenly changed with a new arrival. But the researchers insist the findings should not be seen as a reason to remain childless as bringing children into the world can bring a 'whole dimension of family happiness'. Psychologists at the universities of Denver and Texas examined the marriages of around 220 couples over an eight-year period. They found 90 per cent suffered what they called a 'decrease in marital satisfaction' after the birth of a child. Childless couples suffered the same problems - only a little later, explained Denver University psychology professor Scott Stanley. He said: 'Couples who do not have children also show diminished marital quality over time. However, having a baby accelerates the deterioration, especially seen during periods of adjustment right after the birth of a child.' The research, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found relationship problems were worse for those who had lived together first - possibly because long-established shared routines are more disrupted by new arrivals. | 也许这对于为人父母者来说并不奇怪,但生孩子的确会影响婚姻幸福。 一项为期八年的调查显示,90%的***在第一个孩子出生后“婚姻满意度”下降。 对在结婚成家之前就已经同居的人来说,生孩子对两人关系的影响及其所带来的压力问题更为严重。 这些调查结果对于很多为人父母者来说似乎的确如此。他们发现,随着小生命的降临,家庭经济状况以及两人的性生活等一切问题突然都发生了变化。 但研究人员强调,这项调查结果不应成为不要孩子的理由,因为孩子会带来一种“全方位的家庭幸福”。 丹佛大学和得克萨斯大学的心理学家在为期八年的时间里对大约220对***的婚姻状况进行了调查。 他们发现,90%的***在有了孩子之后“婚姻满意度降低”。 丹佛大学的心理学教授斯科特•斯坦利解释称,没有孩子的***也会面临同样的问题,只不过是早晚的问题。 他说:“时间久了,没有孩子的***的婚姻质量也会逐渐下降。“ ”但生孩子会加速这一过程,尤其是在孩子出生后不久的调整阶段。” 这项在《个性与社会心理学杂志》上发表的研究成果表明,对婚前就已同居的人来说,孩子对两人关系的影响更为严重,这可能是因为两人长期形成的共同的生活规律被新成员打破了。 |
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